Resolutions, potholes, and perspective

My New Year’s Eve started badly. Weight gain for the week, plus measurements that didn’t live up to my expectations. I was disappointed and frustrated.

But I was also determined not to let that disappointment ruin my day. A friend of mine on Facebook posted a quote: “You can choose the journey, but not the potholes.” And that’s exactly right.

I had a big day planned. I was meeting a group of very, very dear friends for a sushi lunch at 11, and then two of those friends and I were going for facials. After facials, I had a date to meet my husband for dinner at our favorite Italian restaurant.

My morning had several frustrations that had brought me to tears, but as I was driving to sushi, I really, really wanted to change my mood. And so I decided to list my blessings.

I spent a full 30 minutes of that drive talking out loud in the car and listing all of the blessings in my life. There are way too many to list here, but let me sum it up by saying that if gaining 1.6 lbs this week is the biggest problem in my life, then I need to get over myself.

Like I told myself in the car, gaining weight this week is one of my blessings, because feeling that frustration and continuing on anyway makes me STRONGER. It’s all how you look at it, isn’t it?

I am, without a doubt, one of the most blessed people on the planet. 2011 has been a good year. My husband and I have a family, life, and jobs we love. We have made significant changes in our lifestyle — both losing 30lbs or so. We are healthy, our dogs are healthy, and our families are healthy.

We didn’t remodel the basement this year because River needed hip surgery, but we improved River’s quality of life and that is wayyyy more important than interior design. I missed visiting with my mom this year, but she relocated to Atlanta to be closer to my brother, and she has had a GREAT year there.

I’m feeling extremely positive about 2012. I feel like I have the potential for personal greatness; I am poised to take off and make my life even better than it is. No matter what unpredictable turns life throws at me, I’m in charge of how I react. That’s so incredibly empowering!

Did you make any New Year’s resolutions? I have my challenge, of course, and starting tomorrow I’m going to be up at 5am at least five days a week to write a page on my novel. I am DETERMINED to finish my novel this year. I have a couple of other things I want to focus on as well, but those two are the biggies.

What about you? How are you going to make 2012 a great year?

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7 Responses to Resolutions, potholes, and perspective

  1. Sharon says:

    I am sorry about your morning. I wish you would have called me because on top of all of that I would have reminded you that YOU ARE AWESOME.

    I am glad I am not the only one who gives myself lectures out loud.

    I never make resolutions, only because I always forget them after a couple weeks. This year life forced one on me. I need to stick to it – there’s a lot on the line. It’s of too personal a nature to go into here, but I will say that my commitment is such that it is already set up in a Scrivener project with research, goals, steps, and a journal of accomplishments. Go, me! And you, my dear, played a key role in all this, so I’ll say again, YOU ARE AWESOME.

    One last thing – don’t be hard on yourself for being disappointed about the setback. That shows you how important it is to you, and how committed you are. Those are good things. And look how well you recovered!

  2. Maggie says:

    Great post, Melissa. I’m glad the talk during your drive turned negatives into positives. How wonderful to forego renovations all for River. I betcha he thinks you da best fur mom in the world. He’s loving every minute of his new hips!

  3. hornblower says:

    Have you heard of Naikan? It’s a gratitude based meditation practice from Japan & I think you might appreciate aspects of it. Best wishes for 2012.

    • Melissa says:

      I have not heard of it. I’ll look into it! Just two seconds ago, I was thinking that I needed something specifically like that. Thanks for the amazingly well-timed recommendation.

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